Most women who find themselves here don’t feel like their life is falling apart.
It’s something much more subtle than that.
Things just feel… off. There’s a longing for more, and right alongside it - the conditioned belief that MORE is something we’re not allowed to want.
They’re often busy pouring themselves into others - their kids / partners / ageing parents / friends / career / community - and have been slowly disappearing inside their own days for some time now. They may love their life. And are grateful for it all. And yet they’re tired in a way rest doesn’t fix, flat in a way gratitude doesn’t touch, and carrying a low-grade anger (read: simmering rage) they’ve learned to swallow because they can’t quite put their finger on how to name it.
Somewhere along the way, they became very good at being very capable.
Reasonable. Practical. Selfless.
The one who holds it all together.
And in the process, they learned to accommodate everyone else - while quietly abandoning themselves.
They’ve acclimated to live in the slow ache of a life that once fit, but just won’t anymore.
All the while carrying the deeper knowing that if nothing shifts, their children may inherit the same self-abandonment they were taught to call “being a good person.”
What’s being asked for in this moment isn’t more striving, or more doing…
…it’s radical self-acceptance.
Now - there’s LOTS of talk around Self-Love... and it absolutely sounds bloody amazing. But I also know very few women who’ve even visited there, let alone moved in.
Before we can get to inhabit Self-Love, there’s a first step needed that is way more fundamental.
Acceptance.
For me, radical self-acceptance begins with finally seeing yourself clearly - and realising you were never a problem that needed fixing, or broken beyond repair, or “too much.” You were simply taught to see yourself through distorted lenses - patriarchy, capitalism, beauty culture, and a long list of inherited expectations - none of which were designed to reflect your truth. And all of which benefit from you staying small, stuck and self-abandoning.
You do not need to burn your life down, try harder, or become someone else.
Your body is simply asking you to re-orient towards your own truth.
To choose yourself inside the life you’re already living.
To stop overriding your emotions, intuition or drive.
To use your voice to speak your truth a little more often.
To notice where obligation has replaced self-trust, and gently begin to unwind these patterns.
But how? Where do we even start??
By utilising the most accurate map of your unique operating system - your strengths, limitations, communication style, bonding strategies and more - your Human Design blueprint.
Once you can clearly see yourself for exactly who and how you are - the performance can stop. The mask can come off. And you can begin to live a life that fits with ease.
This is what radical self-acceptance looks like in practice. Ending the quiet, relentless war with yourself.
Human Design, as I use it, exists in service of this.
I help you see yourself and your people SO clearly - that judgment softens, difference is allowed (without explanation, apology, or correction), patterns loosen, and connection becomes the guide.
If you’re a parent, the impact of modelling self-acceptance will take on extra meaning.
Whether you’re raising children of your own, or doing the work of re-parenting the parts of you that were never fully seen, choosing to become the cycle-breaker in your lineage means you’ll want a map for how to move forward.
When you see how you are Designed - and how your children are Designed - connection begins to shift away from convenience, compliance, obligation, or inherited patterns, and towards recognition. Toward helping everyone involved feel genuinely seen, heard, and accepted for who and how they already are.
This is the most important work there is.
We weren’t raised this way. We were made to adapt. To behave. To fit the shape that made life easier for the adults around us. And inside us still lives the unacknowledged parts of us still longing to be truly SEEN - not for being “good” or “easy” or “smart,” but for simply being ourselves.
This is how cycles are broken.
Not through perfection.
But through allowing ourselves - and our children - to exist without correction.
If you’re here because something in you is stirring - because you’re tired of overriding your own knowing, or quietly disappearing inside a life that looks fine from the outside - you’re in the right place. Welcome x
You can begin by working with me one-on-one, in a space where you get to be deeply seen and gently reflected back to yourself using the clearest, most practical lens I’ve found - learning your Human Design. Or, if you’re stuck, want my perspective or guidance on something or are holding a question and want a clear, honest mirror, you can ask me directly.
How to Work With Me
-
These sessions are a deep-dive into the basics of your Human Design.
They’re about helping you recognise yourself outside of the conditioning you’ve inherited - and the practical strategies to help you begin choosing from that place.
You can book a single session, or work together across a short series in a package if you feel called to go deeper and are looking for the best value.
-
If you’re sitting with a specific question - about yourself, your child, your relationship, or a pattern you keep circling - this is a more intimate, focused offering.
You send your question, and I respond with a considered audio reflection (20 minutes minimum), grounded in your Design and the deeper themes at play. It’s something you can return to, listen to again, and let land in your own time.
“If you allow someone to be who they are, and they allow you to be who you are, then that’s love. Anything else is torture.”
— Ra Uru Hu